The world we live in demands something from us almost every moment of the day. Many of us start with a FT job that takes 40 hours plus each week away from our ‘time’. Then if you have children they have extra curricular activities, more time away from home to run around. When do we spend family time? Is Sunday the only day? Even Sunday’s are filled with plans and errands to complete in preparation of the upcoming week. However? How do you make time for the family outside of your home that you don’t see everyday? You make time. This is key in all relationships, whether family or friend. I had a conversation last night with someone who told me they haven’t been home to see there parents in over two years and the death of a close friend made them realize the priority.  We hear every day that tomorrow isn’t promised. Do we treat each day in such a manner? No we don’t, we start the should have, would have, could have blues. Which is not healthy, because the past is unchangeable. I like to start off my day by asking myself three questions.

1. Who are you? “In order to reach what you want, you must be who you want”
2. What are you doing today to make tomorrow better?
3. Have you loved on your loved ones?

This regimen is so important because it refocuses my mind daily to steer it towards progress and success. How do you make time for people that are more important than money?

The can do attitude is a constant triumph of changing the negative to the positive. Every morning you have a choice of how your day will go. Using your ability to decide how you are going to react to each situation is vital. I want you to take a moment and think of the one thing you are procrastinating on working on. Have you done every single thing you can do to work towards this project? I hope your not listing the reasons why you can’t do it. That can be detrimental to success. That action builds bricks to a wall you are creating to block yourself. Every time I find myself in a negative situation, I find the good in the situation. Remember everything happens for a reason. Yes, that is one of my favorite sayings. Recently, I was in a car accident, a hit and run. At the time I was driving a 99 Honda Accord, that accident left the trunk pushed in. I was driving this car back and forth from NC to NJ and was unable to do so anymore with the damage. This horrible situation which occurred during another horrible situation had me truly down. It took about four months for me to make this situation into a good one. I realized I was able to afford a new car that I was not interested in buying at all. We really did need a newer car traveling nine hours home at least twice a year. I would have kept on driving that old car if it wasn’t for that bad situation. I didn’t receive any money from the accident or anything because of my minimal coverage. When I realized I really needed to bite the bullet and buy the car. I realized this accident helped place me in this mind set. Without it I would have still been content with the 99 Accord. We have to remember things shift to cause discomfort to push you to a new level, a new place, a new mindset. Realize that discomfort is pushing you to a new level and make the leap of faith. Adopt that Can Do Attitude! Where there is a will there is a way!

I’m Brooke and I decided to start a blog to reflect on many of the daily challenges single moms conquer on  a daily basis. Romans 8:37 reads, “Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us.” Remember daily when things get thick and you are unable to see an end that you can do it! My blog will often be religious based. I love people and believe we all need to love people and each other to make progress in the world today. I teach my children to love others even those that have not loved them. I constantly challenge them to look at the big picture in all situations. I have two sons, one entering kindergarten and one entering high school. I am very proud of my freshman as he makes me proud by the mature choices he makes. Him and I recently read a article about a young lady who did not have her father in her life the same way he doesn’t. The young ladies father started to be a great father to her half sister that he lived with and instead of this young lady being upset and mad, she was happy that at least her sister had a good dad. After reading this article my son was very happy and stated he is happy for his little brother as well. He told me that I often worry and I don’t have to because he has had excellent examples himself and although they may not be his father, he is grateful. My son helped me forgive and move on, our children have such a different perspective in life, we have to take a moment and stop worrying to reflect on the good.  Single moms we are often upset and disgruntled that our children may not have their father in their life or the father may not spend as much time as we or the children would like. I challenge you all to remember today that everything happens for a reason, Eccl 3: 1-15. You and your children are more than conquerors and will conquer the world with a little bit of faith. Remember, “Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated”
a quote from Coretta Scott King. We must rise above our daily challenges and forgive! Who are you going to forgive today?

Please comment below and let me know, who you are going to forgive and how.

Sources:

King James transalation of the Bible                                                  http://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/quotes/c/corettasco141009.html