Tuesday January 6th
I recently learned a lesson about approaching things. Sometimes your approach can make or break your message. Especially if your audience is not ready or open. Your approach can make it where they hear you or they don’t what I learned is sometimes a softer approach or calmer approach is needed for serious situations depending on the subject or audience we often think that aggressive approaches are going to make someone hear us when often it does not.
Generally aggressive approaches actually make someone not hear you or gives you the short end of the stick because people shut down from aggressiveness.
So I challenge you to consider your approach in your next situation, next conversation, or next time that something needs to be addressed. Remember, that approach truly can change the outcome.
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God’s Angels
Saturday January 3rd 2026
I’ve been realizing slowly but surely that God has really sent rock stars to me over the years. I have a few wise men that I’m forever grateful. A gentleman,my senior, that sends me positive messages every morning. We used to work together, like almost 5 -6 years ago. Those messages really hit home and really encourage me on some days when I’m feeling down. I have another gentleman, my senior, that sends me scriptures and devotionals everyday. I grew up with his children. His messages help me everyday. I have a wiser young woman, my senior, that sends me messages daily and she truly provides a breath of fresh air. All of these messages inspire me and encourage me especially in my dark hours. We are trained to think that messages of positivity and such should come from our family. Parents siblings cousins,etc. Not necessarily true. God works thru all types of people that you run into on the streets, in stores, work, etc. I’ve always been the keeper, my whole life. Always the person that keeps the family steady, the person that put things on their shoulders. I’ve never had the opportunity to be at ease. And as I grow, I learn and I analyze myself, I’m realizing these things. These angels encourage me daily. Sometimes I do wish it was from more familiar faces, but it’s not and that’s okay. God really sends people. In North Carolina I finally noticed he has sent people to me my whole life to be encouraging spirits or encouraging people in different ways and through hard times. So I say this to say, that your encouragement might not be coming from the people or the places that you look for them to come from. However, appreciate where they do come from because you are the assignment of those people. Be grateful that you have been assigned.
Real Tears
December 30, 2025
If I focus on all that was wrong right now what I have went thru. I would really be in tears and possibly a mental breakdown. However, God’s pulled me through things like this before so I keep my head high and keep my attitude positive. I try to focus on the things that I can control however, it’s hard. It’s challenging when you have more people around you just to be around, then to actually support you. It’s hard when you have more people depending on you to support them, then even caring to support you. So I start to question things, I start to question the people that are around, I analyze people’s purpose. When you get to this point, where you don’t want to talk anymore. You really don’t want anyone around you because I’m trying to figure out why are you really here. You know, I’ve had so many people tell me what type of friend they are and you can depend on me and things like that but when it really boils down to it I can’t. That hurts. It hurts because I am the friend that you can depend on. I am the person who cares about everybody else. I see my kids they care about their friends. How do I tell them to care but not too much. Care for yourself and support others but in reason. Don’t exhaust yourself, maintain your own mental health. How do you do that, how do you show them that without shutting all the way down. There have been so many times I want to shut all the way down. These last couple of months have definitely been one of them. It’s sad cuz I can understand people that do crazy s*** and the reason behind it. Sometimes it is the easier way out. So what do you do, how do you move on. You try to find a way to some sort of peace, some sort of positivity, something to be thankful for. And hope the day goes by well. 🤷🏾♀️
Trust
Everyday is still a constant challenge. You realize you may need a help mate in life however it’s hard to trust people. Hard to depend on others. It’s hard it truly is. Trusting some one as a friend and trusting some one as a roommate or partner are two different levels. Thru the last few years many have offered many I turned down. Not because of lack of friendship but because of lack trust. Lack of trusting someone with your full life not just part of it. I’ve mastered the trust with part of it side not the trust with all of it side. Most don’t meet that standard. I’ve realized that over this time of lack. I don’t trust anyone with my whole life, I’m not sure if I ever will.
I have a method of avoidance. Consistently avoiding fully opening up or fully disclosing. Only partial, always partial. I call it protecting my heart. However I recognize it’s toxic. Early childhood experiences from so called friends that betrayed me in many ways. I remember a distinct incident of a girl that came to my birthday party so they would have something to talk about. Through these incidents I made an unconscious choice on how to deal with people in the future. Don’t let them get too close. Moving around has driven me insane and hasn’t made my trust any better. So as I prepare to make more changes, I also prepare to open myself up to fully trusting someone.
Resources in the Valley
When in doubt, shift back to what you know. What has worked. Just reinvent and update the process to fit your current goal.
These daily activities keep me moving forward during tough times.
More often than not we have a bunch of other things going on in life than the stuff we need to focus on to push forward.
These are my daily six steps to keep myself going.
1. Uplift yourself. You must always motivate yourself. Whatever picks up your spirit!
2.Work in your purpose.
Working in your purpose always gives you a good feeling.
3.Organize your finances.
Review and look for more ways to save, invest and make money.
*Don’t do this if it’s going to cause stress.
4.Take a Break! You deserve it!
5.Work towards your goal!
Another feel good activity, creating progress!
6. Celebrate your success!
Mindful choices
Everyday we have a decision of how to start our day. Yesterday, on my day off, I woke up pissed off. Not wanting to let that energy consume my day. I completed a mini workout and turned on a book during my other morning routines. By the time I was ready to leave the house. I was recharged with positivity. My outlook to the day and said situation completely changed. It’s up to us to control our minds daily.
A book, a power mantra, a podcast, a song, whatever it is that will help you shift your mood. Use these tools to shift your mind. Don’t dwell on things you can’t control. Be aware of how things make you feel. As you practice this control you will gain more confidence in the goals you strive to achieve.
Keep pushing daily!!
Don’t want to Talk
I wouldn’t even know where to begin when we talk about the daily personal challenges. I gotten to the point where I don’t even want to talk about them anymore. Honestly, I try to ignore them. It’s hard though, because apart of me feels like ignoring some of these issues is ignoring my kids. When in reality I try to ignore the pettiness to keep the peace so I can see my kids. When my kids visit me on the weekends I have to split my time so he can see the cousins he wants to hang with or the friends he wants to play with.
I used to desire a little girl, I even wanted to adopt. Now, I don’t want anymore kids. Especially when I feel like I can’t take care of my own. I’ve ran from writing, yet maybe I need to get some of this stuff off of my chest. The burdens are heavy and no matter how much you try to ignore them they are still there.
Progress in pursuit of the goal sounds good, yet the sacrifices that have to be made tend to hurt.
Resolutions, Nah…
Upon the end of each year, many of us take a look back at the ending year and identify something we would like to change. Now we want to approach the goal we didn’t reach differently or we finally want to stop that bad habit. Or we finally want to start taking care of our health. Most of the goals I have reached or changes I have maintained didn’t start on any Jan 1st. They started when I made a conscious decision enough is enough. Why isn’t this done daily or weekly? Why must we wait for a new routine of messing up to fix it. This past year I went through many challenges or challenges went thru me. Thru those difficulties, I lost my stability, I lost my drive. I didn’t even know who I was looking at in the mirror. When you see things going wrong, change the course. When nothing is falling in place, change your position. When things go wrong look for the underlying blessing. Even in returning to the town I grew up in that I left 12 years ago. I had to find the blessing and purpose in being back home. I now realize I had to be hear I needed to regain my drive and passion. At times we wait until there is nothing left to make the change or the resolution. Don’t wait until Dec 31, 2019, to change what’s not working next year. Give it three strikes and it’s out. New direction, a new path, new strategy. I challenge you all to join me.
Don’t make resolutions, make changes today, next week and the week after until you find what works for you.
Happy New Year!
Wishing you extreme focus, love, and prosperity in 2019!
Relocation?
The first 3 days, weeks, months, years
I’ve been told that I’m admired for relocating. That friends and family are oh so very proud of me. All while I’m screaming help on the inside. Have you been here?
Oh look at you! You’re doing it! Go girl! The one that may have hurt the worst, “I want to be like you when I grow up.” Said a childhood friend, I actually hoped it was in jest, but he made it clear he was very serious. Once again all while screaming on the inside, “HELP, I’m drowning here”
This experience of changing my surroundings completely. Leaving all of my family and moving somewhere I didn’t know anyone, blew my mind. Only one friend and a few of her friends. Wow, I’m still blown away to this day and we haven’t reached the 3-year mark, yet.
The first 3 days was honestly a blur. What I do remember, my oldest child and I pulled into Charlotte, NC and checked into the extended stay. Not only was it an extended stay it was one of the more ‘urban’ facilities. My son did not want to stay with me and actually refused. Well, he was blessed to have a backup plan in which he did not have to spend 6-8 weeks in the extended stay with mom. The hotel did not have any dishes, so I bought some. There was no way I was going into storage, besides my stuff wasn’t here yet anyway. The first 3 days I can honestly say wasn’t too bad. Other than, a pissy elevator and my friendly neighbors wondering where is she going with a suit on daily. To be continued…
Hustling or working, the game never changes just the service. I’ve learned to keep pushing no matter what!
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